Oh great, there’s even an awareness day to mark just how low my self-esteem is.. Blue Monday is described as the most depressing day of the year. It’s based on a combination of;
- How much time that’s passed since you made your new year’s resolutions,
- Your low motivational levels,
- The cold weather,
- Christmas is now a distant memory, yet most of us are still paying for it,
- Your debt levels (that credit card will be due soon)
Brilliant, now I feel really great!
In fact, Blue Monday was a PR stunt by Sky Travel. It was made up. It’s not real. It’s a gimmick.
But now you feel like cr*p, because I have told you
that it’s the most depressing day of the year.
Our brains are not as clever as we would like to think they are.
They’re amazing, but at the same time, they are a bit stupid. If we are not careful, we can pollute our brains with stuff that makes us feel really bad. We need to stand guard and protect our mind from all the rubbish that could potentially be filtered in.
Blue Monday got me thinking about how we are (easily) influenced by the world and people around us.
I find myself in a constant battle between being really interested in the news and what is going on in the world, to loathing it.
Am I polluting my brain?
I worry that my brain is constantly being polluted with fake news, ideals of what I “should” be doing and what other folk’s version of what success looks like rather than my own.
Since I started working as a Personal Development Coach, I have become passionate about finding out all about about how my brain works, how easily it can be influenced and just how easy it is for us to sink to low levels of self-esteem.
For years I battled with low self-esteem, in fact finally finding the “cure” to low self-esteem was a major factor in my decision to become a Coach. I did heaps of work to overcome my issues with my own coach, it changed my life.
Does this sound like you?
I became fascinated by the very influences that had caused me to have low self-esteem. You may recognise some of what I felt:
- My achievements felt useless,
- I felt like I was a bad person,
- Finding love felt a million miles away,
- Feeling pretty worthless a lot of the time,
- Impostor Syndrome was something I suffered from massively and I felt like a fraud,
- I felt inferior to pretty much everyone,
- Feelings that everyone was better than me constantly plagued me,
- I didn’t have a sense of importance,
- Speaking out and sharing my opinions felt really scary,
- My self-care was non-existent,
- The voice in my head was constantly critical,
- My body would literally shrink, as though I was not worthy of taking up so much space.
For years I searched for the “magic pill’ that would rid me of this constant dark cloud and longed to feel more positive about myself. I am pleased to say; those days are long gone.
Nowadays, life seems so much lighter, easier, colourful and people actually describe me as a positive and confident person. More importantly, I feel all of those things, at last I feel happy.
Don’t get me wrong, I constantly work on my self-esteem and I dare say it is something I will need to work on until the day I die.
Working on my self-esteem actually feels, well, pretty enjoyable. Nowadays, I focus on continuous self-development and I haven’t stopped working with my coach now that I am “cured” in fact, working with her helps my self-confidence massively.
Here’s a few proven strategies you can use to increase your self-esteem on this Blue Monday;
- It’s all about mindset, make sure you work every day to ensure your mindset is positive. I talk a lot about mindset work in my free weekly newsletter, you can sign up here,
- Appreciate your qualities, all of them, even the ones you don’t like, because that’s what makes you, YOU,
- Identify how you are self-critical and then work on turning those thoughts around,
- Work out what rules you have subconsciously created to live by and understand what demands and restrictions they are putting on your life,
- What limiting beliefs do you hold about yourself? Understand how they are holding you back and then evaluate them to understand if these beliefs are the truth or simply an assumption you are making,
- Create a new script to live by and form new rules for living
It sounds difficult, but really, trust me it isn’t. It’s about training your brain to think and react differently.
Struggling with low self-esteem? Suffer not a moment longer.
For the next minute, close your eyes and imagine how your life would be if you didn’t have low self-esteem.
- How would you feel?
- What difference would others notice about you?
- What would you be doing, that you are not doing now?
- How does it feel to be the most confident person in the room?
- How does it feel to believe in yourself?
Feels good right? Then get in touch and let’s make it happen.
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me on 07412 384 420.