How do I overcome my fears? It’s something I am asked as a coach time and time again. Imagine if you were more afraid of what life would be like if you didn’t follow through on something. If you didn’t take action. If you didn’t make your dream a reality?
How much more useful would that type of fear be?
This mindset is the difference between successful and unsuccessful people. Fear isn’t a bad thing, fear isn’t something that you need to avoid.
Fear can fuel you to make your dreams a reality.
Successful people fear missing out, they fear the cost of not doing something. They fear not taking the risk, both in business and their personal life. Successful people are excited by fear, because fear means progress.
So how do you use fear in a positive way?
1. Evaluate the cost of not taking a risk.
How Do I Overcome My Fears? First, Imagine you are 80 years old, thinking back over your life. Now, think about all the things you didn’t do, the goals that didn’t become a reality, the dreams that never made it out of your head.
Think of all of those times, when you didn’t have the energy, you didn’t have time or you were too scared to act. Too scared to step outside of your comfort zone.
How does it feel right now,
not having achieved those goals and dreams?
2. Discover your Why?
We will all break through all our fears when we want something bad enough, we just need a compelling reason.
We need a why! (A why isn’t a should)
Figure out why you want something because the reasons come first and the answers second. The why will drive you and if your why is powerful enough, you will find a way to make it happen.
Use fear to your advantage, don’t let it use you. Ask yourself, what price will I pay if I don’t do X, if I don’t take action, if I don’t follow through? This “good” fear will get you over your “bad” fear.
3. Condition your mind
Once you have found your why, your reason (not your should) the next step is to start to condition your mind, every single day.
You need to establish daily rituals to ensure you condition your thinking so that there is no doubt in your mind, you are 100% certain you can achieve your goal.
When someone is absolutely certain in their belief “If I do X, then it will change my life” you will make it happen. If you don’t believe it will work you will never take the right level of action.
Start to visualise a positive result, see your results in advance. Execution is important, but what makes the difference is having total certainty that your plan will work.
If you are constantly ask yourself how do I overcome my fears, changing your mind-set and the way you think is critical. If you have a strong belief that you can make something happen, you will take more action. You will generate more results and this result reinforces your belief that you can do something.
Fill yourself with absolute certainty that this is going to work, tell yourself no matter what, you will find a way to make it work. With this thinking alone, you will tap into more of your potential, you will take massive action and see great results, your brain recognises this and then says “see, I told you this would work”
4. Experience disappointment
The trouble is, most people are so scared of failing and feeling disappointed, they lower their expectations, they become sceptical, they are too scared to raise their hopes. They keep asking themselves how do I overcome my fears?
The truth is, you have to experience disappointment, there’s no getting away from it.
Do you let disappointment drive you or destroy you?
Successful people take something that doesn’t work and they find a way to make it work, disappointment only drives them to succeed further.
Change starts with you and you alone
It’s time to stop with the questions – How do I overcome my fears? It’s time to take action.
Don’t tell a story to yourself about why it won’t work and don’t allow yourself to make excuses. If you succeed or you if you don’t, it’s all in your head and it can be changed with some basic conditioning.
Your life changes the moment you ask how do I overcome my fears, then decide to take action.
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