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Overthinking

Overthinking… Gosh, what will they think? Will they think I’m too big for my boots? What will they think of my new hair do? Will they think I’m stupid?

Overthinking about what others think of you can quash your dreams in a nano second, make you feel like 💩 and paralyse you from taking any sort of action.

It’s no wonder so many female entrepreneurs turn to coaching in order to help them eliminate these mindset gremlins once and for all.

Here’s 3 tips to help you right away!

So here’s the underlying fact!

What other people think of you is non of your business! It’s time to stop listening to the views of others, because honestly, it doesn’t matter what they think!

All that matters is what you think! Overthinking will just drive you mad!

They are worrying what you think!

Whilst you are sat there freaking out about what they are saying or thinking about you, they are doing exactly the same! Overthinking their own lives!

You didn’t think you were the only one thinking this way did you?

The whole world is worrying what everyone’s thinking!

The only person we are really thinking about is ourselves! Because most of us have our own issues, insecurities and fears we’re battling with.

In the nicest possible way, they haven’t got time to think about your, their too consumed trying to sort their own mindset gremlins out!

Is it approval or permission you’re after?

We have all asked other people’s opinions and there’s nothing wrong with that!

👗 How does this dress look?

🕵️‍♀️ What do you think about this?

The trouble comes when our requests for someone’s opinion is actual a need for approval in disguise!

You certainly don’t need anyone’s approval!

🏦 Start a business

💔 End a relationship

🏃‍♀️ Train for a marathon

👩‍🏫 Learn Chinese

These are YOUR choices and you certainly don’t need permission from anyone!

Is your chimp going crazy and overthinking?

Your brain is made up of 2 parts, the logical, human part and the emotional chimp part!

Ok, I’m simplifying this massively here, but stay with me!

Gain control of your chimp, look at the emotions and thoughts that are running through your head and ask yourself;

  • Is what I’m thinking really true? (Is this overthinking actually helping me?)
  • Am I making assumptions about what people are thinking?
  • Is there some mind reading going on? (Or are you trying to)
  • Perhaps what I’m thinking utter bullshit and simply my mindset gremlins at work? (9/10 out of 10, this is the answer!)

Keep writing these thoughts and feelings down, it will help you to get more focused and work out what’s really going on.

Writing things down also helps you spot pattens in your thinking and behaviour. Notice what triggers keep popping up. That way you can start changing your thinking habits to more self serving ones.

Help is on hand…

I know first hand how overthinking and worrying can make you feel and how it can get in the way of creating a life and business you love.

That’s why I’m offering a 4 week intensive coaching programme, designed to help you regain control of your chimp, your mindset and finally eliminate all these negative beliefs you hold about yourself.

You will receive a 60 min coaching call via zoom each week so you can finally nail these beliefs. This intensive coaching package is £600 and designed to get you quick results!

I’m opening up 3 spaces for intensive coaching, simply email helenwalker@york-walker.com to book.

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confident business owners

I coach so many women who have businesses they love, yet aren’t performing, they want to know what they can change and what they can do to turn their business around. Now, I am no business coach, so I won’t write your strategy for you, in fact most of these women have well throughout out business plans, creative marketing plans and well-established goals.

What they don’t have, is the right mindset or the levels of confidence and self-belief required to make their business a success. This is where I can help them!

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excel at work

Confidence and self-belief, ahh if I could bottle them up and sell them, I would be a very rich woman. Well I can do the next best thing! I can give you a tool kit for life so you can keep developing this much needed skill.

That’s the thing with confidence, it’s self-generated and unfortunately nobody else can give it to you (they can take it away from you if you don’t have the right mindset though)

I have coached so many fantastic women over the years who have worked with me in the hope of becoming more successful at work…

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Confidence & Mindset workshop exclusively for women

Confidence! My number 1 reason – Because I have been where you are right now and, well frankly it stinks!

No confidence and my self-belief on the floor – it’s no fun.

It pains me to see so many awesome women missing out on life because of this little thing called confidence. My pain magnified because I remember how I felt vividly, not so long ago.

I felt like a bystander of life.

Watching all the cool kids, the confident women smashing their goals and making their dreams reality. No matter what happened to them, whatever life threw at them, their self-confidence was unshakable.

They didn’t take things to heart like me, they excelled at work because they didn’t overthink, procrastinate and waste time.
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How Do I Overcome My Fears?

How do I overcome my fears? It’s something I am asked as a coach time and time again. Imagine if you were more afraid of what life would be like if you didn’t follow through on something. If you didn’t take action. If you didn’t make your dream a reality?

How much more useful would that type of fear be?

This mindset is the difference between successful and unsuccessful  people. Fear isn’t a bad thing, fear isn’t something that you need to avoid.

Fear can fuel you to make your dreams a reality.

Successful people fear missing out, they fear the cost of not doing something. They fear not taking the risk, both in business and their personal life. Successful people are excited by fear, because fear means progress.

So how do you use fear in a positive way?

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Eliminate self doubt

Learning to eliminate self doubt is something that i am so passionate about. This month, I’ve been writing about all things relationships. Romantic ones, work related and the relationship you have with yourself.

This week I want to write about the relationship you have with your mind because I think this is one of the most abused (and allowed) relationships

Let’s think about it for a moment. You meet up with a friend for coffee, she greets you by telling you how much weight you’ve put on since you last met, how that jumper looks like an old bin bag on you oh and blue really isn’t your colour.

Over a brownie, You tell her about a new opportunity you are thinking about going for and she shuts you down with a “blimey, you don’t have the right experience for that and you are way too old, don’t even think about it. You would never get it anyway, not with a face like yours, I’d stop with these thoughts because you really do sound like an idiot.

You arrive home feeling like the total loser that you are and you’ve put your dreams in the bin where they belong!

What would you do next?..
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Increasing your self-esteem on the most depressing day of the year

Oh great, there’s even an awareness day to mark just how low my self-esteem is.. Blue Monday is described as the most depressing day of the year. It’s based on a combination of;

  • How much time that’s passed since you made your new year’s resolutions,
  • Your low motivational levels,
  • The cold weather,
  • Christmas is now a distant memory, yet most of us are still paying for it,
  • Your debt levels (that credit card will be due soon)

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