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I’m sorry that I ever lied to you, forgive me, but I was too scared of what you might think of me.

When I very first began coaching, I had the massive misconception that nobody in their right mind would want to work with me If they knew my secret.

You see, when I qualified as a coach, I had finally got my shit together.

I’m confident and full of self-belief, a completely different person from the who I used to be.

I haven’t always been this person you see today.

So here goes, he’s the truth.

I’ve been treated for depression, I’ve hung around in mentally abusive relationships for far too many years because I believed I wasn’t good enough to love.

I’ve had an eating disorder, I’ve suffered with anxiety, hated my job, yet too afraid to leave, trapped by a big pay check and a boss who bullied me.

I’ve being a serial procrastinator, I’ve been paralysed by fear, felt an outcast with my friends and plagued with the fear that I’m just not good enough.

How’s that for starters?

So, I gave the illusion to the world, that I’d always been carefree, laid back women, like nothing at all would bother me.

I’m 40 now, experienced in life and realise that there isn’t a person on the planet who doesn’t lack confidence or self-belief from time to time.

I saw my problems as a weakness that I must hide.

Too fearful of the judgement that would come if anyone knew that I had been too upset to even get out of bed for almost 4 days, unable to even brush my hair, feed myself or get dressed.

Those 4 days were the tipping point for me.

I knew that something HAD to change.

I felt useless, rock bottom and totally worthless.

I remember the feeling like it was yesterday, it will stay with me forever, a gentle reminder that I can never return to that dark place.

A reminder, that on occasions I might feel tired or too busy to do the work required to keep building my self-worth and my confidence, but I must, no matter what, because going back to that place isn’t an option.

Quick and easy, it’s not!

I’d like to say that transforming my life was easy, quick and pain free, but I’d be lying, and lying to you or myself is something that I’ll never do again.

Building your confidence and self-worth is tough, it’s frustrating and at times it feels like you will never get there.

I’ve learnt so much about how my mind work, often against me, so it comes as no surprise that transformation is gonna take work.

It takes time, patience and if you’re really serious about changing how your feel, your life and your success, then it’s gonna cost you some money.

I’d spend it all again in a heartbeat, because I couldn’t put a price on taking that pain and those feelings away.

A belief is simply a thought you have accepted to be true!

Just because you think it, doesn’t make it the truth. Yet, these beliefs are so firmly lodged in our subconscious, we believe them to be absolute truths.

They guide our life, limit our dreams and hold us back.

They keep us stuck, small, unfulfilled, unhappy and unsuccessful.

The reality is, my dirty little secret that I fought so hard to hide away is what’s made me into the coach I am today. I’ve changed people’s lives, literally transformed them from scared, vulnerable women with no sense of worth, to confident leaders, CEOs, business owners, strong mothers, wives, girlfriends and friends.

My own troubles mean that I know EXACTLY how you feel! It means I’m the perfect coach to help and support you.

I know exactly what it takes to drag yourself from despair, feeling unworthy and unloved to a kick arse women who runs her own successful business, with a family she adores, full of confidence and self-love.

I know what absolute happiness is, I’m grateful every single day that my path crossed with my coach, who helped me create this amazingly, rewarding life I have today.

I’m totally and utterly blessed to have had the experience in life I have, because it fuels me every day.

My absolute passion is supporting women to be the best version of themselves by building confidence and self-belief.

So, I share my secret with you, maybe you will judge me, maybe you won’t, either way, I don’t mind.

Long gone as the days when I beat myself up for my past or worry what others think about me.

When you work on you, changing how you feel on the inside, building your confidence and self-belief, nothing or nobody can touch you!

So there you have it. I’m sorry I lied, but it took me some work to finally have the courage to admit the truth.

Is it your time?

If you are sick and tired of hiding behind your lie and want to change your life, happiness and success get in touch.

Building confidence takes time and often we need support to do it, but once you have self-belief, anything is possible.

Email me at helenwalker@york-walker.com for more details on the coaching packages I offer.